Life Lessons I've Learned In 23 Years

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I can't believe I am already 23 years old! I know this post is a bit late and this might be a bit cliche to some of you for some reasons but I still want to share the things that I've learned from the past 22 years. My birthday this year is not the best one because things happened but I am forever thankful for all the blessings I've received in my life.

1. Not everyone is your friend. I always thought that being friendly is a nice thing to do until I reached college. Yes, it can be nice but there is also a down side to it. There are people who you think are your friends but the truth is they will pull you down and spread rumors about you. Yes, even your close friends can do that. Just be careful in choosing your friends and keep your circle small.
2. You don't need to rush love/marriage. When I was in college, I used to tell myself that I want to get married by 23 or 24. But right now, I think I'm not ready yet. You may have friends or relatives who are already married at an early age but don't pressure yourself.
3. Being an adult is not easy. When my Mom passed away, I started to pay my bills on my own so it is not a big deal when I graduated college. It took me awhile to learn how to budget my money and how to control myself from buying unnecessary things.
4. Saving money is important. I know some people might find it hard to save money but for me, it is a must especially when you're getting older. In my case, I really have to save money for myself and for emergency purposes.
5. Get a job that you like and a job that you are passionate about. I've tried different jobs from the past years and there are so many things that I've learned from them. First, it is hard to stay on a job that you don't like what you're doing or when you're not comfortable in working with your colleagues for some reasons.
6. Be the person you want to be, not what others want you to be. In this generation, there are instances that our parents dictate us on our future like who they want you to be or what to take up in college. Try to explain your side and take the course that you really want.
7. Don't hate. I know we are all free to give our opinion or thoughts but if you know you can hurt someone's feeling, just please shut up and let it pass. My Mom raised me well.
8. Be mature in handling situations. Always handle the situation with class.
9. Take a lot of photos but know when to stop and cherish the moment. If you get what I mean.
10. You don't need to post everything on social media. Being a millennial, I admit I used to post everything on social media especially when I was in high school. I only changed after I graduated college. The more I share my life on social media, the more criticisms I get. It seems like everything I do is a big deal to some of my relatives and other people. Lol.
11. It's okay to block toxic people on social media. I used to say that I won't block other people and just let them see how good my life is. But I came to the point where I had to block them because they are so toxic and it's already unhealthy.
12. Travel as much as you can and make memories. I know I haven't done this but maybe soon. I really regret not traveling at an early age. I'm already 23 and I haven't been on a plane. I will get there. Soon.
13. Love yourself. When you love everything about yourself, your flaws and imperfections won't matter anymore even if people use it against you.
14. Don't let other people bring you down and stop you from doing what you love. Accept criticisms but use them so you can be a better person. Don't overthink it. You know yourself more than anybody else. Focus on the people who support you and believes in you. Focus on your dreams.
15. Getting a job is hard. If you think college is the hardest, wait 'til you graduate. First, finding a job is hard especially here in the Philippines. In applying for a job, there are a lot of requirements and it takes too much time before you actually start working. If you resign from a job, you have to render 30 days before you get cleared and you have to go in the process of finding a new one again. The struggle is real!
16. Sometimes, it's okay to just stay at home than to go out. I know this is very "Tita" but I admit there at some days that I just want to stay at home and do nothing or just watch kdrama all day. I noticed that when I was on my first job. There are times that my friends would ask me out and I'll just tell them that I have something else to do. Haha! Sorry, friends! #Buking
17. Skin care routine is more important than makeup. No joke! Skin care routine is really life changing especially Korean skin care products. I love to try skin care products nowadays than makeup. If your skin is already good, you don't have to put too much makeup na.
18. At the end of the day, all you have is yourself. When I was young, I used to depend on my Mom so much. I never thought that she'd pass away too soon. I was not prepared. I did not know how to start living on my own. But as time passes by, I learned not to depend on anyone anymore and death is inevitable.
19. Keep the faith no matter what. I've been through a lot from the past years. I just lift everything to Him and I know he will guide and protect me. Just keep the faith and trust in Him.

I didn't expect this list to be this long. I swear! Haha! I learned this thing with my own experiences. I've been through a lot especially when my Mom passed away. I can say that it made me mature and stronger. I became aware of the things that surround me and the reality.

Do you agree on my list?

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